Low Self-Esteem Can Trap You in Your Job
If you are honest, many of your frustrations in your job are down to your own insecurities and low self-esteem. How you feel about yourself has a very definite impact on which way your career will go – up or down. In some cases, it can certainly be that the job is affecting you and creating low self-esteem. But the reality is that with a lot of people, their own lack of confidence produces negative energy. This energy can have very real detrimental effects on your career. At worst it will make you ill, at best it will hold you a prisoner of your own insecurities. It can also make you believe you are not worth applying for a job that could be perfect for you.
Looking For a Way Out
When you increase your confidence level, you are able to work more effectively, have the self-belief to negotiate higher salaries and, infuse others with your positivity. On the flip-side, when you fail to do so, you are going to be paid less, given fewer responsibilities and will end up stuck in a position that you are overqualified for.
But if you are looking to move on, you have to work on yourself first. Before you even begin your job search process, you must admit you do not feel confident about yourself. You need to truly accept who you are and then work to improve your weaknesses or work around them. There is an old saying – ‘Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results’. This is so true of people stuck in jobs they hate. They feel that repeating patterns will somehow improve their situation. But they won’t.
It is only when you realise the power to change is within you, not anyone else’s responsibility, will things change. Above all, you need to believe that you can overcome your low confidence and negative self-esteem. You must truly convince yourself before you can convince somebody else. Habits and behaviours are hard to change. You need to accept this reality. This will take time but making the initial commitment to you is the first, most crucial step in the right direction. The more you start saying ‘I can’ instead of ‘I can not’, you are more likely to get it done. You will begin to see a way out of your low self-esteem.
Making New Patterns for Yourself
Make a list of all your accomplishments and achievements on your current and previous jobs. Compile all the results. Ask yourself what comes easily to you that others find it incredibly hard or challenging. Are you technologically savvy, or really good with the written word? Do you have brilliant organisation skills? Speak to colleagues. Ask them to tell you what your best qualities are. Just as a reminder and further reassurance. That is one of the most affirmative exercises you can do.
Practice affirmative reinforcement of your qualities. And believe them. Practice and then practice some more. Pick one person in your life that has unconditional faith in you – a partner, friend, relative – think of all the images of them supporting you and believing in you. Researchers found doing this leads your brain to produce more oxytocin, a bonding hormone that boosts your feelings of self-worth. And, by just bringing someone to mind who believes in you, you can soothe away some of your anxiety.
A New You
The right mindset will significantly boost your overall state of being and performance. When you think positively and believe in your abilities, you will recognise success.
If you want a job that matters to you, write down exactly what that means for you. If you value success, devise your KPI and measure how success relates to you.
Since low self-esteem can spiral out of control and seriously affect your ability to find the right position, it is crucial to begin improving your self-perception. Once this is successfully done, you can start to job search at the level you should.
In this way, you will find the right position in a timelier, constructive manner.