Don’t Let Your Lack of Confidence Affect Your Work – Part One

2021, Career Guidance

There are many reasons you may lack confidence at work. Maybe you’re in a job that requires skills you don’t have, or you’re less experienced than others around you. Perhaps you’re new to the company and feel uneasy about your ability to succeed—or you feel threatened by colleagues, you fear losing your job or you are simply too hard on yourself. Public humiliation and errors in judgment can also do the trick.

In a nutshell, self-esteem is your opinion of yourself and your abilities. It can be high, low or somewhere in-between. Whilst everyone occasionally has doubts about themselves or a lack of confidence, low self-esteem can leave you feeling insecure and unmotivated. You might be able to identify a few things that are affecting your opinion of yourself (maybe you’re being bullied, or you might be feeling lonely), or it could be a mystery. Whatever the case, if you are wondering how to improve your self-esteem, we have a few tips that may help you regain your confidence.

There’s no such thing as ‘I can’t’. Simply saying these words will make you that much closer to failing. These words are literally saying ‘I don’t believe in myself! I see my limitations! I am afraid of failing!’. Those are not the words of a confident person. Confident people look at a challenge and say, ‘I can’. Just saying ‘I can’, chances your mindset to bring you closer to success. Make a list of your accomplishments. Stick it above your computer where you can see it and read it every day. 

Just be you. Constantly comparing yourself to other people is a sure-fire way to start feeling bad about yourself. Try to focus on your own skills and achievements, rather than measuring them against someone else’s. Nobody needs that kind of pressure.

Don’t Let Your Lack of Confidence Affect Your Work

Reliability. Make sure you know your own core values. What are the key principles by which you live your life? With every decision you make and choice of action, check in with your personal integrity. Are you being pulled to act against your values, or are you in line with them? Working without honesty creates deep-seated self-doubt, so keep your motivation up by committing to act with integrity in every situation. 

Mistakes happen. You’ve got to make mistakes in order to learn and grow, so try not to beat yourself up if you forget to hit ‘Save’ on a critical document. Everyone’s been there.

Be positive. Try to focus on your skills and talents as much as possible. Make a list of all your good qualities and don’t dwell on what you perceive are your weaknesses. Building self-esteem is about finding out what your strengths are and then developing and building on them. Your employer would not have given you a job if they did not recognise certain skills in you. Look for the best in every situation and even if things go wrong, focus on bouncing back from mistakes – learn from them, but don’t let them drag you down.

Be realistic. If you set up too high an expectation of yourself, you are sabotaging your job hunt process and setting yourself up to fail. Go back to the step where you have compiled a list of everything you have accomplished. Also, you know the things you are not particularly good at. Set your goals to be slightly above this level. Just linger on the outside of your comfort zone.

This is truly the key to success. Many people set up goals that are too hard or unrealistic and when they don’t realise them, they blame themselves for not being good enough or not trying hard enough – whereas the problem lies with incorrect goalsetting.

Above all, you need to believe that you can improve your confidence and low self-esteem. It is important to convince yourself before you can convince somebody else.

Habits and behaviours are the hardest to change. You also need to accept this reality. This will take time but making the initial commitment to you is the first, most crucial step in the right direction. Just by saying ‘I can’ instead of ‘I can’t’, you are more likely to get it done.

 The good news is that you can manage your behaviour to improve your lack of confidence, boosting both your self-esteem and your career.

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